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Doug Bowker's avatar

First-off, I love the photo of you and Willa.

The Apologies ingredients list: Yes, absolutely, and: look out for items 5-7, which is where so many get tripped up!

The self-care involved in leaving a yoga class early is truly what yoga is all about. :) Yes, it's also to challenge ourselves, but for many of us, what's more challenging than saying "it's too much"?

And Hannah: you ARE enough.

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Joy Banfield's avatar

Loved this ... It's funny how we all experience the journey of life. Your last part about providing a "traditional apology, in the true sense of the word ... and without shame" hit me hard for some reason.

Growing up in a fundamentalist religion, as I did, and experiencing the life I led in my 20's, I can't even conceptually craft any apology that does not come with shame. Thus, when I made changes to my circumstances in my 30's, I avoided ever defending or explaining myself at all because I refused to have shame about the control I took over my life. What that meant, though, is that (in most cases) I never provided an explanation - even to people in my life who were important. I lost most of those people because either they didn't understand or because they were only seeing 1 side of the story which was told from a source without full perspective. Instead of giving anyone my point of view, I just didn't share because I was unwilling to defend my position to people who couldn't understand. I wish I had that to do over again with the perspective that I now have in my 40's.

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